October 11, 2012

Twenty four



Some things I have realized at the age of twenty-four.

Don’t worry about what other people think of you.


I used to and still do (to a point) worry too much what others think of me, of my decisions and of my actions. Not just anybody, my family especially. Eventually, I came to realize that if you’re wasting too much time seeking validation, respect or approval from others, then you won’t have time to accomplish what it is that YOU want.
Everyone has an opinion, but in reality other’s opinions of you are based more on their history and perceptions than anything you’re actually doing. So while it’s good to ask for feedback, rely on your own assessment of you rather than others.
Today is what’s important.
This is a biggie on so many levels. Enjoy every moment of today, because you are not guaranteed a tomorrow. Don’t put off your dreams. Don’t wait to do, try, enjoy all of those “someday” items. Don’t tell yourself I’ll do it tomorrow. If it’s important to you, then do it today.
What you do today, determines what tomorrow will bring. Our future is set by what we decide and act on today.
Let it go.

What happened yesterday is over. Don’t waste your energy dwelling on anger, resentment or disappointment. It only keeps you stuck in the past and holds you back from moving forward in your life.
Also, learn to let the little things roll off your back. Insults, criticisms, setbacks — let them all go. Don’t hold on to old resentments or slights. They only weigh you down.
It’s called work for a reason.
Success at anything takes work. When you hear about an overnight success story, don’t forget about all of the work that came before. I need to tell myself this everyday as I try to make my photography business grow. It takes time to build a career or a business, a lot of prep work, and time to learn and to fail.
You may have to do work you do not enjoy and trudge through the trenches of planning, building, refining, moving up, out, over and redefining before you get to the place where success clicks. Keep going.

Believe in yourself.
You are your own worst critic, and so can you be your own best supporter. If you do not have confidence in your own value, and liabilities then other people won't. You must have faith in your intrinsic worth. We each have something to offer that is necessary and valuable, though we may not know what that something is.
Just because you don't know exactly how you might succeed, doesn't mean that you won't. And just because you may have made mistakes and have a string of failures behind you does not mean that you can’t achieve your goals in the future. You can do far more than you can imagine.

Money is not the most important thing.


Money is important. We all have bills to pay, I understand that completely. But in the end, or even in the middle, maybe especially in the middle, money is not the end goal. Satisfaction in a job well done or finding something you enjoy doing are more motivating goals and certainly lead to a happier and less stressful life.
Money is simply a currency that allows you to eat, dress and live. It does not equal happiness. What brings happiness is family, friends and doing what you love.

Don’t be afraid to do things differently.
Take a stand. Speak up. Stand out from the crowd. If something is important to you, then stand up for it…even if it is unpopular. Never compromise your integrity. One person can make a difference and shed light on injustice or unfairness. If it’s not right, say so. Not everyone is going to agree with you, and that's ok.
Don’t worry so much about conforming to society’s standards or whatever passes for the norm. I think we place too much emphasis on fitting in and being “appropriate.” This is not your grandmother’s world. Don’t be afraid to be yourself.
It’s not a race.
Don't worry about tomorrow. You do not have to do it all at once. In fact, if you try to do it all at once you will, at best not have time to enjoy it and at worst burn out and damage your health and relationships. Slow down and take one thing at a time, one day at a time. 

Look for the good in everything.
Stay positive. Look for the good in people. Celebrate the happy moments, big and small.
This does not mean ignore the bad. Dishonesty, disrespect, unhappiness and evil exist and you will have to deal with them. But if you view the world around you and life’s challenges through the lens of goodness, then you will find life much more enjoyable.
Life is serious — and sometimes awful — but you can still be upbeat and hopeful. 
Otherwise, what’s the point?


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